My married Friends
Dont blame me for not blogging too often. There is this new job I have found- weddings! Yes, weddings in Uganda have become a job! my blogging time has been taken up by wedding meetings, bridal showers, real weddings. I love doing this, doing it for my friends. I mean thats what friends are for, isnt it. I actually love being in the mix, preparing and all, but I hate it when my married friends, for whom I sacrificed my time, and little money start acting wierd.
All of a sudden, its nolonger I but we. I cant make it, we are going to see some friend of ours....
I am sorry I couldnt give you a gift on your birthday, we are building.... ( she is not working, so I will understand about the gift, but about the building?)
O.k, they are nolonger one but two ( or is it nolonger two but one) but why throw out your friends?
My married friends feel sorry for me! actually pity me. They remind that I need a man every time I am with them! They even go an extra mile to try and hook me up with their husband's unmarried friends! Sometimes I think they are insecure. They try to get me out of the way, coz they think being single, I am out to grab their men! yet I feel I am supposed to feel sorry for them. I mean, we are young and they are married, committed for life! I want to believe that at 23 (feel free to add or subtract 3), I should be free as a bird! But they are nolonger available for plot, they have some washing to do at home! how interesting. they cannot go for a party unless he is going! how convinient! So if the husband is going, and I am going with them as a friend, we shall be three, how interesting!
I go to visit my married friends, I mean, friends are friends forever. They feel obliged to drop me home afterwards, but then they are not the ones to drop me, he has to..., because he is the one with the car, and he goes cursing about the traffic jam, what an inconvinience!
My married friends bore me, these days, they cannot sustain an interesting chat. It is always, "me, John Bosco does this..., Me, my husband is like this, us, we are doing this..." and suddenly he becomes the centre of their lives... I mean we are supposed to be looking for jobs, planning for the future, applying for scholarships, sending eachother mail, going for girls nights out, enjoying our youth.
I cant throw my married friends out though, I am not yet married! And I am not sour graping, and one day I might sell out, join the enemy, the married friends!
All of a sudden, its nolonger I but we. I cant make it, we are going to see some friend of ours....
I am sorry I couldnt give you a gift on your birthday, we are building.... ( she is not working, so I will understand about the gift, but about the building?)
O.k, they are nolonger one but two ( or is it nolonger two but one) but why throw out your friends?
My married friends feel sorry for me! actually pity me. They remind that I need a man every time I am with them! They even go an extra mile to try and hook me up with their husband's unmarried friends! Sometimes I think they are insecure. They try to get me out of the way, coz they think being single, I am out to grab their men! yet I feel I am supposed to feel sorry for them. I mean, we are young and they are married, committed for life! I want to believe that at 23 (feel free to add or subtract 3), I should be free as a bird! But they are nolonger available for plot, they have some washing to do at home! how interesting. they cannot go for a party unless he is going! how convinient! So if the husband is going, and I am going with them as a friend, we shall be three, how interesting!
I go to visit my married friends, I mean, friends are friends forever. They feel obliged to drop me home afterwards, but then they are not the ones to drop me, he has to..., because he is the one with the car, and he goes cursing about the traffic jam, what an inconvinience!
My married friends bore me, these days, they cannot sustain an interesting chat. It is always, "me, John Bosco does this..., Me, my husband is like this, us, we are doing this..." and suddenly he becomes the centre of their lives... I mean we are supposed to be looking for jobs, planning for the future, applying for scholarships, sending eachother mail, going for girls nights out, enjoying our youth.
I cant throw my married friends out though, I am not yet married! And I am not sour graping, and one day I might sell out, join the enemy, the married friends!
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